(Sung to the tune of "If I Only Had a Brain, a Heart, the Nerve" from The Wizard of Oz)
Well, I guess, I technically have a brain. And I could probably round up a paper bag. And I think there's a guy on my street who sells black tar heroine, which should work just like xanax, right? What I meant was, I wish that I had a brain that worked more like other people's brain's seem to.
At least I don't think that living a mundane life like mine makes other people want to punch strangers in the face, scream obscenities at dogs that walk too slowly across the road (well, OK, maybe everyone does that), wake up to pee in the middle of the night only to be unable to go back to sleep haunted by endless possibilities, biting the inside of their mouths bloody while they rock back and forth furiously flipping through color coded and tabbed notebooks of information.
OK, maybe some of that was slightly exaggerated. I'll let you guess which parts. (hint: it's not the part about the heroine, that stuff's great)
Why the heck is a stay at home mom so stressed out, apart from the fact that I am clearly bat-poo crazy? Because of the up-coming move to Minnesota of course! After 4 months, I am sure you are sick of hearing me complain about moving to MN. I am certainly sick of THINKING about it, much less hearing myself complain about it! WHY won't you turn off brain?!! Anyway, in just over 4 months, we will be gone, and instead of hearing me complain about having to move, you will get to hear me complain about how cold it is, how I don't know anyone, how Matt is gone all the time, how I don't like sausage (cause I know they put it in everything over there), how they do weird things in the mid-west like sculpt cheese, etc. So don't worry. I am sure that my whining heart will find something to moan about, and at first I am sure you will be grateful for the change from the "moving complaints".
I think that the problem is just that 8 months is a LONG loooong time for a super planner/over thinker like me to know that you are making a cross country move. Much, much too long. Matt's solution: "Just don't think about it for a few months". DO NORMAL PEOPLE'S BRAIN'S REALLY WORK LIKE THIS? Should I be able to do this? I mean I am excellent at repressing horrible things that I have to block out. Like super good. But at just temporarily forgetting important things that I need to remember later and not worrying about them until an appropriate time? I am simply not capable. I try. And sometimes I am moderately successful. The problem is that I am a HUGE daydreamer. Have been my whole life, and I am always thinking about the future and mapping out how I am going to make it better (chalk it up to a scarred childhood), and that is not something I can change. I find myself doing it before I can stop myself, and when I have no clear picture of the future, just a little black hole, super amounts of stress and anxiety set in. OK, this just got WAY deeper than I intended it to. I will get off the couch, so I don't have to pay you for a therapy session, and get back to the intended blogging for the day.
Anyway, here are a few things I have been doing that can be done 4.5 months out of a move.
- Figuring out how to pay for it all, applying for loans, FAFSA, shuffling savings accounts, looking into health insurance, figuring out our essential expenses etc. The program is 30 months. Tuition isn't that expensive, only like $15 grand, but Matt can't work at all during the program, so all of our living expenses for 2.5 years are going to have to be loans/savings. Plus there are other things, books, a program specific laptop and other equipment, etc that will have to be paid for, not to mention the cross country move.
- Figuring out which school districts we are willing to live in! We have never had to worry about this before, but Lily will start Kindergarten next year, so while looking for a place to live, we are going to have to be very aware of the different school districts. There are about 17 Elementary Schools in the Rochester area, so I have had to look into them and see which ones are an option. This will limit our housing options, but what are you gonna do?
- Getting an idea of what rental costs are. What types of options are available, locations, what its going to cost us, etc.
- Figuring out the cost/options of actually physically moving, IE truck options, flying kids out VS making them drive with us cross country, etc.
- Planning a trip to go out and house hunt prior to the big move
- I got bored halfway through typing this list and decided to go ahead and quit here, so it you are still reading props to you...
We are STILL waiting on some information from Mayo, that SHOULD help us make some big decisions. I think. Hard to say 'til we actually see the information, but here's hoping. We were initially told the info packet would be here in Feb., but they have yet to send it. Which is part of the desire for face punching as afore mentioned. However, look how pretty Mayo is.
And here are some nice city views of Rochester in case you are wondering what it looks like.
I got to chat on the phone this week with a very nice woman from the PHX valley who is currently living in Rochester while her husband does his general surgery residency at Mayo. She was awesome, and talking to her was great and made me more excited to get out there.
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Anyway, every March residents are "Matched" and lots of new Dr's move out of Rochester to do their residencies all over the country at the end of May/beginning of June. This means that this is when a lot of properties are listed. Granted most of them are for sell, and I am pretty sure that we are just interested in renting and not buying (that is a whole other debate for another time. Why is it that paying a mortgage is $400/month or more cheaper that rent? grrr)
Anyway, we don't actually NEED a house until August. But I am nervous that if I wait until then there won't be very much available, remember its a city of about 110,000 people so it's not like our options are limitless. So my question is, do I find a house early, like one that will be vacated in June when this year's batch of residents leave and start paying rent a month or two early to secure a good rental, or do I sit tight, be patient and wait for the right time/until we really need a place. Will I just be throwing away a month or two's worth of rent (which could be like $1000/mo remember) when we could possibly find another place just as good? Is it the early bird gets the worm, or good things come to those who wait?